I
know that the subject matter is already raising lots of eyebrow, but not
withstanding the truth must be told. If you are a lady and no longer want to be
a toy in the hands of men, then this is for you. It’s very annoying and most
times unbelievable to think that some ladies don’t even know what they want in
a man. It goes to say that the first thing to do is to ask the right questions,
questions like
“What
do I really want in a man?”
“What
do I want in a relationship?”
“What
are those things that I can put up with and cannot put up with in a
relationship?”
You
see asking the right questions, helps you set the records straight from the
onset. Too many ladies jump into relationships missing this point and once this
point is missed there is bound to be a ship wreck sometimes in the future, however
I am not implying that asking the right questions will guarantee that it will
be a rosy affair, no! It will simply give the relationship a sense of direction.
It is equally important that you don’t rush into any relationship without
giving it a thought, or worst still be in the habit of saying yes to every Tom,
Dick and Harry that shows the slightest interest in you; you might be sending
the wrong signals. I’m not saying any of these to scare you, all I’m saying is be
mature and use your sixth sense. Most ladies are afraid of telling a guy off
who they are not interested in because they think if they do the right man may
never show up, then how will the right man show up if you don’t tell the wrong
man off? The problem in most cases is that most ladies are desperate and as such
easily fall prey. The first to do before saying YES! to a man is to see if he
meets your criteria of your type of man, and if he does meet your criteria,
make your terms about what you want in your relationship clear to him, if he
loves you as he claims, he will accept and make the necessary adjustments, see
this is a very crucial point and it is very easy for a guy to adjust than a
lady. The importance of doing this is to let the person know what he has coming
his way, he ought to know in order to prepare his mind and weigh his options to
see if he can put up with it, though we men don’t like admitting it but we like
women with self esteem. It is equally important that you both spend a great
deal of time getting to know each other better; your likes and dislikes, that
way it does not give room for unnecessary excuses or unnecessary hurts. Despite
you love a guy so much, it is not just okay for you to jump into bed with him,
a lot of guys who have had serious intentions for some ladies end up changing
their minds the moment they find out that she is a cheap conquest, and most
ladies don’t know this secret. This idea of having a taste of the pudding beforehand
has to stop, not to talk of when it is your first day together in a
relationship and you are already in bed with him, the next thought that runs through
his mind is: if this is how she has been sleeping around with other men
Before
you know it, he changes his attitude towards you especially when he has gotten
his share.
I
must warn at this juncture that sometimes some guys will go the extra mile to put
up with a lot just to get to you, if a guy is sincere you will know and when he
is not you will know unless you are too blind to see or don’t want to tell
yourself the truth . Get some standard
but don’t be too choosy or look down on everyone please.
I will be back to talk more on the subject
matter, so I implore you to stay tuned.
Cheers!
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